The Nice Life Inspirational Quotation:  "The past is the best prophet of the future."  Lord Byron

Is history doomed to repeat itself, or can people really evolve?  There is plenty of evidence to support both sides of the coin.  In the past, blacks were discriminated against in the most extreme ways.  However, now a black man is President of the United States.  In this situation, humanity has evolved.

At the same time, it seems as though another group has been targeted for modern discrimination — the homosexual community.  I was watching TV last night, and somebody said, "Gays are the new blacks."  So, in this instance, humanity still chooses to hold onto discriminatory ideas.

History repeats itself in one area (no change), while humanity evolves in a different area (change).  Flip a coin — it all has do to with the consciousness of the individual or the particular group in question.



One of the things humans struggle with the most is the idea of individual change — especially when it comes to relationships.  Relationships tend to end, for a number of reasons, and they reconcile with the hope that the offending party has "changed."  If the offending party can prove (via actions) that they have, in fact, changed ... the relationship problems will melt away, and you're free to explore this "new" relationship with the "changed" partner.

With that being said, I'd like to share a letter I received in the mail recently, highlighting the many ways one of my ex-girlfriends says she's changed.

Please understand, dating me can be quite challenging.  Due to my training in deception detection — in conjunction with my spiritual awareness and advanced-level intuitive abilities — it's tough to get things past me.  While I might not be on the nose about the specific details in regards to a particular deception, I can always spot and/or sense the deceptive or uncomfortable energy or body-language. 



That book is great for starters.

For example:  While in a group setting, I might notice an uncomfortable rapport (usually a lack of rapport) between two individuals.  This could mean a number of different things, including:

1.)  They've hooked up.
2.)  They have an uncomfortable secret.  (Such as: One person hooked up with a mutual friend, or any other hidden knowledge.)

There are a number of possibilities — and while the specifics aren't really that important — the deceptive energy is.  After all, if you can't trust your relationship partner to be transparent, it shows that their loyalty lives outside of your relationship — and outside secrets are never good (if you're hoping to create the highest quality of relationship).

When I point out the deceptive energy, most people go into self-protect/denial mode.  I've had countless instances of deny, deny, deny, you're crazy, deny, deny, deny ... truth (finally).  Once I'm able to determine a person's "deceptive face" (the facial expression they unconsciously project while being deceptive), it's easy for me to notice what they look like the next time they choose to be deceptive. 

People who naturally operate in the deceptive realm have no problem continuing to twist information, in order to protect their secrets or achieve their evil agenda.  When you operate in the realm of deception, you're operating outside the realm of truth.

God is Truth.  The Devil is a liar.

Deceptive people do deceptive things — it's who they are.  They're aligned with Satanic energies.

But instead of getting angry at the source of their discomfort (themselves, via their deceptive/selfish decisions), they tend to project the anger/hate to the person bringing these feelings to the surface (me).

I remember when two of my ex-girlfriends started hanging out, they apparently always had conversations centered around me (both have confirmed this).  One thing that made me chuckle was when one said, "Girl, you've dated Brandon!  You've learned everything he talks about ... you know it works.  How are you gonna let this other dude play you like this?!"

So, even in moments of weakness, where emotions cloud better reasoning (and girls act crazy), most people who come into contact with me have to grit their teeth and eventually admit that my philosophy of Always Speak Truthfully (Segment #7 in Book 1) is the most productive way to live one's life.

It's also (in my opinion) the most important human characteristic — when it comes to choosing a relationship partner.



When you always speak truthfully, nobody will ever have power over your life.  You're in control of your destiny.  When you live in the realm of deception, you're always under the control of someone else (the person you're cheating with, the business partner you're stealing with, the person you've slandered etc.).

You're going to encounter deceptive people who will twist the truth, in an effort to achieve any number of different selfish agendas.  However, my experience has shown me that God (via Universal Law) always tends to balance things out. 

It's up to you to control your emotions and take the high road.  Follow the challenging instructions given in Romans 12:19, "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written:  'It is Mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord."

In relationships (friendships, love relationships, or business), I've always said, "I'm just a mirror — I simply reflect the true nature of a person's character — not the facade they project to the masses."  A lot of people end up being angry at me for this.



I'm consistently connected to the Spirit of Truth (the Holy Spirit), so don't get angry at the mirror for reflecting the truth.  Go wash your face.  Use some soap.  Clean the dirt off.

With that being said, I'd like to share the beautiful love-letter I recently received in the mail, from an ex-girlfriend.  It was postmarked July 8th, 2009, and was written on July 7th.  Receiving a hand-written letter in these technologically-advanced days is something extraordinary.  It's such an honor to know you've had a such positive affect in the life of another.

Brandon,

I know it's challenging to look at me and see a beautiful person.  I know my behavior was mean and hateful, at times, and it's hard to view a person the same ways after their bad side emerges.

You've evolved since we've been together, while I started treading backwards before we hooked-up.

You were and always have been my favorite person outside my family.  I always hoped to be with you one day, when I was ready, and at the perfect moment, since you're the perfect man.

I know this ugly person you've been exposed to isn't who I truly am on the inside.  I've never been that way before and I'll never be that way again.

I've told you I'm not going to give excuses.  I'm not trying to justify the things I did, I know they were wrong and I could have chosen another way to respond or react, but I didn't.  I'm owning up to my mistakes, and accepting responsibility.

My competitive nature began to fight a battle, I was destined to lose.

I allowed my emotions to get the best of me.  I know I acted immature, spoiled, bratty, bitchy, mean, hateful, spiteful, evil, devious, etc. ... but I've moved past it.  The first step to change is realizing or identifying the problem.

I've taken extra steps to eliminate the things influencing me in a negative direction.  I refer to it as preventive maintenance.  If you put in trash, you're gonna put out trash.

I don't need modeling to feel beautiful.  I've chosen to not do it anymore by my own choice.  Not because you don't like it.  I no longer need it.  I didn't know how truly insecure I was at that point in my life.  I'm embarrassed.

I know I've been hard to handle at moments and I don't blame you for not wanting to see me.  I was destructive, instead of supportive.

From the most sincerest portion of my heart, you have my word, I'll never act the way I've acted, again.  I love myself and I love you entirely too much to act so unbecoming.  I'll walk away before it ever reaches that point.

I know these are just words, but they're coming from a genuine place inside me.

The best way for you to see and experience "the real me" is by my action, not my words.  I'm grateful we're communicating, again.  I hope you give me the opportunity for me to show you I mean what I say, and I say what I mean.  I want to experience something even more wonderful with you.

Your forgiveness, understanding, and compassion are greatly appreciated.  I don't want to live my life without you in it.

I could write more but I don't want to put too much emphasis on the negative, but I do want you to know I know I was wrong.  I'm sorry you had to see "that girl."  I'm not proud of my bad decisions, but I've been putting forth effort to make better decisions to where they're second nature.

I've learned many valuable lessons, and I thank you for it.

I know a letter isn't much, but hopefully it's a start to something new.  Maybe even a second chance.

Love,

___________.

So now, I'll bet you're wondering: What happened?!  Did she, in fact, stick to her commitment to no longer be:  "immature, spoiled, bratty, bitchy, mean, hateful, spiteful, evil, devious, etc.?

You're probably wondering: Did she change?!  Can people change?!  Is there hope for my relationship partner to improve in all their destructive areas?!

I'll say this:

To all my blog readers,

It's my intention to make you feel wonderful when you come to my blog.  In order to make you feel wonderful, you've gotta be full of wonder!

So I'll leave this blog entry as it is ... until I'm inspired to elaborate further.  :]