It all started with a Facebook post. Below, you'll find the content.

Ladies, if you need a date to see Eat, Pray, Love, I'll go, but you have to pay for my ticket. And my dinner. And call me Your Highness.

I never expected such a silly post to create an emotional uproar amongst my lady friends.

Paige said, "Never in my life have I met a man who could get away with what you do lol!"

Trish said, "You really are a cocky dude! I have never in my life met someone as full of himself as you are!"

The ladies proceeded to give me a hard time, which served to hurt my itty-bitty, sensitive little feelings. Alas, I have the spirit of a warrior ... of a champion ... so I brushed myself off, and continued walking tall, immersed in my confident Leo disposition.



The real drama didn't come until Saturday night, when I was at a local nightclub. This girl that I barely know (other than that my boy used to associate with her) came up to me and began some drunken lecture that sounded like the following:

Girl: I saw your Facebook post about Eat, Pray, Love! My God, you are full of yourself! What makes you think you can say things like that?

Me: I was just trying to be funny. I was implying that it would be difficult to get a dude to agree to go see a chic flick like that, so since I'm a Women's Advocate, I was willing to sacrifice myself for the benefit of Womankind — with a few conditions.

Then she went rambling on about how full of myself I was, yet at the same time, she was also rambling about how sexy I was. "You're Brandon Merhout! Don't you know who you are?! You're like, soooo sexy! And I read your stuff! But like, who do you think you are?! You just think you're all that!"

No sweetie, it seems as though you think I'm all that. I just remained calm and asked her why she was being so mean. And she would respond with something like, "Because you're so sexy! And you're Brandon Merhout!" But her overall tone was projecting anger.

It was a strange paradox. Her word selection indicated that she thought I was some type of untouchable sex symbol ... and she seemed to hate me for that. She hated the fact that I stimulated her mind and physical being. Ultimately, I believe she was upset that I was aware of my ability to stimulate the mental and physical elements of the female species.

I tried to help calm her down, and sent her on her way once I realized the drunken rambling wasn't headed anywhere worthwhile.

In regards to my Facebook post, I was just being me. I'm playful. I'm funny. I'm sarcastic. I'm intelligent. I push and I pull. I like giving the ladies a hard time. It's all in good fun.

And ultimately, I'm not responsible for how people choose to interpret my words and actions. Everybody is responsible for their subjective reality. It's been said that everything you don't like in another person is merely a reflection of something that needs to be healed within yourself.

Forgiveness is always the key to healing.

I can only make educated assumptions here, but I would assume that the girl at the nightclub had been previously hurt by a guy who was "full of himself." And knowing my friend (the one she associated with), I would say that would be an accurate reflection of the truth. Whether or not he was the guy who hurt her is unknown, but the underlying point is this:

She needs to forgive whomever hurt her (the guy who was full of himself) in order to experience peace.

In essence, she should see me as a gift! I simply reminded her of some work she needed to do within. In order to experience peace, she needs to internalize the situation, determine who she needs to forgive, and in that moment, she will heal that broken part of herself.

Then she won't have an emotional reaction to a silly Facebook post. And hopefully, she won't be tempted to initiate paradoxical and confusing conversations while under the influence of alcohol — making herself look silly. Remember, he (or she) who angers you ... controls you.

Think about the things that annoy you in other people. Then determine who you need to forgive in order to heal that part of yourself.

Stay tuned for my next blog, which will stress the importance of being "full of yourself."

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