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Will Facebook Destroy Your Marriage or Relationship?

I realized Facebook was a drug when I caught myself sneaking into the bathroom just to use it. ~ Unknown

In December of 2011, a study in the U.K. found that 33% of all divorce petitions contained the word "Facebook." Most cited "inappropriate messages to members of the opposite sex" as the reason petitioners wanted to end the marriage.

I recently composed an article entitled "Diagnosing Your Facebook and Twitter Addiction," in which, I discussed my experience at an NBA game, including the annoying antics that were projected by the ladies in attendance.

Aside from the urge to check pointless status-updates from humans you don't really care about (while sitting beside humans you do claim to care about), Facebook creates another liability in regards to your relationships: the temptation to easily connect with members of the opposite sex.

If you're single, Facebook is the ultimate "wing-man." People no longer have to go through the ritual of approaching you, saying something clever/intriguing, causing you to want to continue the conversation, scoring your phone number, and dialing you up the following day. Nowadays, all one has to do is find you on Facebook, send a friend-request, do a little research (stalking) in relation to your hobbies/interests, send a quick instant-message, and you're off to the races.

"OMG, you like Family Guy too?! Did you see the episode when Peter kept singing 'the bird is the word?"'

The next thing you know, you're going to lunch, meeting up for drinks, taking it back to your place, making-out on the couch, heading to the bedroom, etc.

Facebook hook-up ... complete.

Wouldn't it be as easy for persons who are married or in committed relationships to reach out to potential flings?

Of course it would be.

Harry and Sally have been married for seven years. Sally has been feeling unloved, because Harry would rather spend his time on the golf course than in the bedroom. While Harry's away, Sally decides to play ... on Facebook.

She starts poking around, and finds an old friend from high school. She sends an "innocent" message to John, "Hey! It's so good to see you! How have you been?!"

And it begins.

Sally's emotional and physical voids will be nourished through her new connection with John. This will slowly erode the connection she feels with her husband. And this phenomenon is nothing new — it's been going on for centuries. But Facebook makes it much easier. Any time two people find themselves in a dispute, or take a "break" from the relationship, Facebook makes the "lonely" time not-so-lonely.

Instead of taking time to process the issues any particular relationship may be having (through self-reflection while alone), the human jumps on Facebook to alleviate the symptoms of loneliness, and in the process, finds solace in communication with another. This communication plants a seed that will usually lead to some type of fruition.

If not this week, then next month.

That's why Facebook is so potentially dangerous for persons who are in serious relationships.

Which of the following is more important: staying connected to the time-wasting, full-of-temptation Facebook Matrix ... or ... managing healthy relationships with the "real" persons in your life?

Consider these truths as you manage your relationship — and your Facebook account.

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